Ankur Shah Delight, CDFA® Family Mediator

DIVORCE MEDIATION &
PARENTING PLANS

A Path to Peaceful Separation and Co-Parenting

Divorce doesn’t have to be a battle, and creating a parenting plan doesn’t need to turn into a tug-of-war. I help couples around the country find a fair, respectful, and collaborative path forward — one that avoids the financial and emotional toll of lengthy court battles.

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Why Choose Mediation?

If you’re looking for a way to navigate separation or build a parenting plan without the high costs and hostility that often accompany litigation, mediation may be right for you. Our approach allows you to:- Save Time and Money
Mediation is often faster and more affordable than the court process, allowing you to focus on your family’s future, not costly legal battles.- Build a Cooperative Parenting Plan
Together, we’ll create a parenting plan that prioritizes the needs of your children while minimizing conflict.- Preserve Autonomy
Legal solutions put a judge who has never met your children in the driver's seat. With mediation, you own the solution.- Practice Respectful Communication
With a mediator guiding the conversation, you’ll have a structured and neutral environment to discuss tough issues without “dragging each other through the mud.” The skills you practice in mediation will benefit you for the rest of your co-parenting journey together.- Convenient
No courtrooms, no subpoenas, no lawyers. I mediate over Zoom in all 50 states so you can call in from wherever you're most comfortable.

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How The Process Works

There are four major components to a divorce mediation when minor children are involved. We will address them in the following order:- The Residential Schedule (where the kids go)
- Division of assets (who gets what)
- Spousal support
- Child supportDissolutions without kids only have two of those components:- Division of assets (who gets what)
- Spousal supportFor more information on each of these steps, and how a mediated agreement ends a divorce, click here.

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How did you get so good at mediation?

I have a degree in Mathematical and Computational Science from Stanford University (2001). So I am a problem solver.I then spent thirteen years traveling all over the world learning languages, building community, and resolving conflicts. So I am a deep listener.I then spent ten years coaching leaders in software architecture, leadership, entrepreneurship, team-building, conflict, and relational dynamics. So I am a coach and a cheerleader.I have been practicing mediation since 2016.I am not a lawyer. I am omni-partial and will advocate for the whole system of relationships.Family Mediation involves four essential skills: listening, coaching, financial analysis, and solving problems.When I work with divorcing couples, I first listen to understand each person's needs. I then demonstrate my understanding of their needs and help each party demonstrate their understanding of the other's needs.Then I perform a financial analysis of the marriage, to establish a shared understanding of the current state of affairs ("the marital estate").Next, I use my problem-solving skills to understand if a mutually beneficial solution exists (It's not guaranteed!).Finally, I use targeted questions to help the parties come to a solution that works for them on their own.Most successful mediations involve a moment where one party understands it's in everyone's interest to think of The Good of the Whole. When that happens, the other party usually meets them there. The mediation proceeds pretty rapidly after that.

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